Kids Are Naturally In The Present: Are We Able to Be There Too?
Our weekly routine is typically so busy and stressful, that sometimes the best thing we can do for our kids is to spend a holiday weekend at home relaxing rather than fighting the traffic to pack in another adventure or experience. How often do your kids get to do nothing, or, most importantly, see their parents do nothing? Kids know how to “just be”, but if their parents are always doing, then they lose this capacity and learn that adults can only feel content when they’re doing. Do we want our kids to grow into adults who are constantly rushing to the next moment, not knowing that this moment contains everything we need for complete contentment if we’ll just stop, quiet our minds and enjoy it? Most of the time kids see their parents rushing to the next moment. This is why I enjoy working with nannies. We look for nannies who love what they do and who find incredible joy in being with children. It’s easy to see why: because children are in the present moment. That’s why they’re so much fun. Great nannies are people who have not lost touch with this amazing capacity, and they tell me again and again that being with children brings them deep joy and contentment. These are people who will give your child their complete presence. They’re not on a cell phone. They’re not thinking about what else they should be doing. They’re completely content to be in the moment with your child. It is a lovely place to be. The nanny’s presence is what the child needs to feel safe, connected emotionally, and loved. Parents obviously love their children deeply, and in a world that has become extremely complex and competitive, they want to provide their children with every opportunity to thrive and succeed. I know, because I’m a parent myself. Our drive to give our children a safe, economically stable home and future requires so much effort and commitment to our work that we forget how to shift into a calm, present state of mind. And although our kids need to see how adults work and accomplish things, they also need to see how adults find joy, meaning and contentment in their lives.
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Dr. Ann Wycoff is founder of Safe and Sound Nannies, a full service agency.